Like Avry, I’ve been on numerous bad dates this year. But in fairness, I think I’ve been on more dates in general. I’m trying to find a way to put this without sounding fickle or weird or obsessive.
I’m looking for the person that I will spend the rest of my life with. That said, that makes this obviously no easy task. It requires a lot of thought and a lot of advice. It’s a process. Well at least for me. I go through a process of analyzing and the replaying certain events or looks or words used, etc. It’s a lot of work, like I said.
And I guess among my friends and family they’ve taken me less seriously because of the fact that I’ve moved in with a boyfriend after two weeks of dating, told a guy I loved them after 2 months of a dating and ask a guy to stop smoking after one date. I’m not kidding and no I don’t think any of this is absurd. Its contextual.
I’ve also dumped guys because of small things like they smoke pot on rare occasions, they drove a yellow car, they flick their tongue too fast when they kiss, they’ve lied about their age by two years (was really 33 when said he was 31), etc.
People often tell me that I’m being ridiculous or overly picky, but I see no harm in being particular. I’ve actually taken Avry’s advice a few times and went on a second date (which I RARELY do) with a few guys and I’m really glad I did. It solidified my initials feelings, which leads me to believe that my first impression and gut reaction is right.
I know Avry says, “The worst that could happen to us is we get into a committed relationship.” simply because, well, there goes all the adventure and the fun conversations. But really, I WANT a boyfriend. I want to have kids. I want to get married. I really do want all that and I feel like I’m getting too old… which is why I’ve kicked the dating into high gear lately.
2008 better bring me that perfect guy because this dating thing is getting exhausting.
