I’m looking for the person that I will spend the rest of my life with. That said, that makes this obviously no easy task. It requires a lot of thought and a lot of advice. It’s a process. Well at least for me. I go through a process of analyzing and the replaying certain events or looks or words used, etc. It’s a lot of work, like I said.

And I guess among my friends and family they’ve taken me less seriously because of the fact that I’ve moved in with a boyfriend after two weeks of dating, told a guy I loved them after 2 months of a dating and ask a guy to stop smoking after one date. I’m not kidding and no I don’t think any of this is absurd. Its contextual.

I’ve also dumped guys because of small things like they smoke pot on rare occasions, they drove a yellow car, they flick their tongue too fast when they kiss, they’ve lied about their age by two years (was really 33 when said he was 31), etc.

People often tell me that I’m being ridiculous or overly picky, but I see no harm in being particular. I’ve actually taken Avry’s advice a few times and went on a second date (which I RARELY do) with a few guys and I’m really glad I did. It solidified my initials feelings, which leads me to believe that my first impression and gut reaction is right.

I know Avry says, “The worst that could happen to us is we get into a committed relationship.” simply because, well, there goes all the adventure and the fun conversations. But really, I WANT a boyfriend. I want to have kids. I want to get married. I really do want all that and I feel like I’m getting too old… which is why I’ve kicked the dating into high gear lately.

2008 better bring me that perfect guy because this dating thing is getting exhausting.

The most notable dates have been on recently are as follows, which I will detail later:

• Barely Legal
• Make Out with Two Birds with One Bud Light
• Directional Burper
• Tent Man
• Knight and Shining Dud
• Dutch Oven
• Defensive and Offensive

Just looking at that list gives me such little hope for 2008, but I have a few resolutions:

1. Take chances with men, but think those chances through a little more.
2. Do a little more research this time and only date guys who are smart and well worth my time.
3. No smokers.
4. No fathers.
5. No one over 33.
6. More GOOD sex. If it starts to get bad, pack it up.
7. No guy with clear nonsexual fetishes (this isn’t from experience, just preemptive thanks to Lisa).

That’s a good starting point. And I’m going to try my hardest not to let my flu become some sort of depressing analogy for dating in the year 2008.